Mike and Ramona said…
I also am curious as to when in the world you get to take a shower.
* I shower whenever I need to! I’m pretty easy going and my kids know the deal… no trouble when mama’s in the shower! I have Miss TattleTale (ahem.. I mean Miss Sophie) on duty when I shower most of the time, otherwise I just lock the door to my bedroom with a Dora DVD on for the kids, put them up on my bed and pray for the best
And 2nd one, how on earth do you keep everyone’s socks straight? I can’t do that and there are only 4 of us!!
*Obviously the boys and girls are easy to keep organized. And since the boys share a room, they also share a sock organizer. I usually get their socks for them in the AM, so I pick the small ones for Dalton and the big ones for Asher, I know I shoulda been a rocket scientist Jude’s are the hardest… they’re so small! And he’s a sock/shoe addict, he’s constantly sneaking into his sock drawer and trying on every pair of socks he can get his hands on…
Oh this is fun! OK…how do you manage to get dinner on the table for everyone at the same time?
*We do ‘family style’. I leave everything in the pot or bowl and put it on the table. Then we pray and Chris and I divide and conquer, each of us cutting or fixing everyone’s food just so. We try to think of every condiment that might be requested during the meal beforehand so we don’t have to get up 50 times, but we usually have to anyway. We don’t get to eat a lot of meals hot anymore
What do you guys do for family vacations?
*We don’t! At least not lately. We’ve wanted to, we’ve planned on it, but haven’t been able to put one together since Isabelle came home. We did visit the beach one weekend, but I guess our last vacation was a one month visit to the Ronald McDonald house in Iowa City We’d love to go to Disneyworld, but other than the obvious cost issue, we keep adding little ones and saying, “Well NEXT year we’ll go..” but the next year we’ve got a new baby!
How about what do you do for fun? (meaning just you, or with Chris?)
* We went to a Christmas party last year! It was the first time we’d been out together alone in a LONG time. It’s hard to find a babysitter that is competent with so many kiddos! Plus, I’m sort of a freak about my kids… I don’t trust ANYONE with them, so that limits our options big time. Chris and I are banking on the fact that we’ll both live to a ripe old age and we’ll have plenty ‘together’ time in the future, but we’ll have to see what God has planned!
How OLD are you? How old is Chris?
*Nosy. Nosy. Nosy. But since I love you I’ll answer. I am 39. Chris is 39. He was born one week before me
Do your biological children ever get resentful of adopting since it can mean less mom and dad time for them individually?
*Never. Not once. It really has surprised me how open they have been to the whole process. They are so enamored with their siblings that I don’t think it has even occurred to them what they have had to give up in growing our family through adoption. I think a lot of families make the mistake of feeling *sorry* for the bio kids and I believe kids pick up on that sort of mindset. We’ve always been very positive about the way God has chosen to add to our family and, thankfully, we’ve yet to have any issues arise. Interestingly, Dalton has mentioned several times that he sad he came from my tummy, he wishes he was adopted!
When/how do you ever go shopping just for yourself? Like for clothes that you will need to try on?
*What is this you speak of: ‘shopping for oneself’? I do not understand?;) Actually, I don’t shop often and when I do it’s desperate times.. in and out of Old Navy in a mad rush, usually. When I really need something new, Chris will stay at home with the kids. In a dressing room with a couple of toddlers is one place I do NOT want to be.
I want to know what you do for fun.. what are your interests.. other than kiddos, and adoption and horses?
*I really don’t have any. Really. I mean, I love to learn about adoption, special needs specifically, love to read blogs, love to encourage others on their adoption journeys. I am a non-fiction girl so when I do read, it’s for information purposes only. I just think anything fictitious is a waste of my time, I need reality! I don’t dig the TV, so much junk. Definite waste of time, in my opinion. I think that as God grows me, He gives me new passions for things that He wants me to pursue. So for now, my heart is set on SN kiddos from China, I’m just waiting on Him for further instructions!
Mary Beth said…
How do you stay motivated and not become overwhelmed? And perhaps a related question is: Are you exhausted?
*I DO become overwhelmed… constantly!! But I’ve just had to learn to cope with the ‘I think my head is about to explode’ feeling of being overwhelmed and realize that it will pass. I sounds simple, but as I have learned not to panic when I feel that way, I cope better in the meantime, the experience passes and all is well again And yes, some days I do feel exhausted. But exhaustion is a relative thing and when I’m feeling sorry for myself, I am reminded of how stinkin’ BLESSED I am, how blessed we ALL are here in the US and I get over myself, cancel the pity party and get back in saddle. I think so much of it is attitude and perspective. I remind myself, “I don’t HAVE to care for all my kids… I GET to care for all my kids. I don’t want ANYONE else doing MY job.” Perspective really makes a difference.
Lisa Osborn said…
I think I am most interested in your ability to maintain calm and patience and get anywhere on time.
*Start early! I am sadly having to learn and relearn this lesson constantly. I seem to forget some days that what used to take me 30 minutes to do, now might take 90 with so many little bodies! Getting everyone fed and ready and out the door is a challenge. But I really rely on my boys to help. They corral the girls while I get ready and then help me get them to the car when it’s time to go. They also buckle their siblings carseats, since mama ain’t so agile reaching into the backseat anymore
Now calm is another thing. I have been told that I appear very calm, which really surprises me. I often feel that when we are out and my kids are being psychotic (ie just being kids!) that I get very stressed as one of my pet peeves is parents to ‘forget’ that their child is running amok in the doctor’s waiting room, for instance. I insist on my kids behaving appropriately in public and have been known to take one outside for a car ‘timeout’ if necessary.
How do you remain patient with all the messes and delays and inconveniences that I am sure come with having so many young children and such an active household.
*How do I remain patient you ask? Is that a requirement?;) I am not patient. I strive for more patience on a daily basis. I guess I am fairly laid back, so that probably helps to balance my lack of patience. Plus, my kids can tell when I’m serious, and when they see ‘the look’ they get a move on. I think much of parenting so many is tolerance. I have learned to tolerate more chaos, more clutter, more craziness. Just like working out or anything that requires strength and endurance, you have to build your ‘ability’ up a bit at a time. When I am asked, “How do you DO it? I could NEVER do it!” I say, “Oh yes you could… if you wanted to!! You just have to get used to it!”
I’m working on the balance of questions… more to come