Ever have something to say, but don’t really want to say it?
It happens to me a lot, believe it or not.
“Why?” you might be thinking, “You say ridiculous, embarassing stuff all the time!”
And you’d be right.
But some stuff even I consider, well… sorta personal.
And when you have no idea who the majority of your audience is, that can be a little intimidating.
Even more intimidating is knowing exactly who some of your audience is.
Anyway, all that intro is just space to get me revved up to get to the point. I do believe I’m procrastinating.
Mom, please stop reading.
I found this wonderful post about… you-know-what (what can I say, I’m a ridiculously modest person) and it’s really, really good. “Grace-Driven” is how it’s described. And I think it’s a must-read and must-apply for all married couples.
This is one of my favorite parts of the post:
Make your wife your standard of beauty. There is almost nothing more shaming to a wife than to feel as though her husband’s vision is captivated by someone else, even if it’s just a pretty stranger who happens to pass by. Over time, as couples become more and more familiar with each other, and bodies change, etc., a wife’s fear of losing her husband’s eye typically grows. Husbands, make it your firm commitment — a covenant with your eyes — that you will not measure your wife against anybody else, real or imaginary.
My husband made a covenant with his eyes several years ago. God has always blessed our relationship, but after Chris committed to honoring me with his eyes, our relationship really, really improved. I’m not an especially insecure person, at least that’s what I tell myself. But I don’t think there is a woman out there who wants her man ogling anyone other than her.
When it comes to real intimacy, both husband and wife have to be consistently diligent to honor the other in every way. And not allow the outside world to get in there and mess it up. And that ain’t easy.
Read about grace-driven you-know-what here. And if you’re bold enough to share about your own experiences with ways to improve marital intimacy, go for it 🙂