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change of heart

I could positively, absolutely, drown in this boy’s eyes.

Can someone tell me why most people who adopt from China prefer girls?

It’s a rhetorical question, of course.

I know the answer, because I once was ‘most people’.

I’m so grateful God changed my heart.

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10.28.09 · adoption, Jude, my faith 21

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  1. Barbie says

    October 28, 2009 at 11:50 PM

    Oh I know Stefanie. I am so glad God changed my heart too!!! Ryan is an amazing boy and I can't imagine life without him! When I went to check out AAC's list you posted I was shocked to see that out of the 22 something like 19 or 20 of them were BOYS!! So sad. Not to say we would adopt a boy for sure next but being OPEN to it is so important. Breaks my heart how we complain about China 'not wanting their girls', yet we are known for the opposite when it comes to adoption. Ok… I'm done. ๐Ÿ˜‰

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  2. Karrie says

    October 29, 2009 at 12:25 AM

    Stefanie! That post about Jude is my all time favorite post of yours. It definitely stirred something in my heart. I dream of the chance to bring home a son from China and my RDH now also believes this is the path for us. It looks like 2010 will be a GREAT year for our family!!! Thanks for being such an inspiration!!!

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  3. Holly says

    October 29, 2009 at 12:32 AM

    (sigh)
    I'm pretty sure Ewaina will be a girl…but I'm open to more boys down the road ๐Ÿ™‚

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  4. Stefanie says

    October 29, 2009 at 12:33 AM

    Yay, Karrie! I am SO excited to hear you guys are hoping to bring home a little boy from China… and just hearing our Jude's story played a small part makes my heart smile, BIG ๐Ÿ™‚
    Thanks for sharing and keep me posted!!

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  5. lighthousegal says

    October 29, 2009 at 1:19 AM

    You have no idea how boys fill my heart. Unfortunately when we were adopting we were informed that the only way to adopt a boy was to go the SN route. At that time in our lives that was not something that DH was open to. Now that we are feeling very called to adopt SN, the door is currently closed. I continue to pray and ask for peace and guidance, but my prayers are also for peace and acceptance of where I am in life.

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  6. Lynn says

    October 29, 2009 at 1:20 AM

    He changed my heart too! To two beautiful little boys – one from China and one from Guatemala. And who knows if we are done? I hope not. ๐Ÿ™‚ Your family is such an inspiration.

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  7. TanyaLea says

    October 29, 2009 at 1:28 AM

    I can't say it's so much about preference in my case, as it was a calling. Because there are SOOOOOOO many of those little boys that just melt me to pieces! Don't tell my hubby… but I would LOVE to go back for a little boy in a couple of years! But first things first…get Khloe home!! ๐Ÿ˜‰

    Your children are all SO darned cute… I could melt in ALL of their eyes! ๐Ÿ™‚

    Hugs,
    Tanya

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  8. Rebecca says

    October 29, 2009 at 1:33 AM

    Thanks for sharing!
    waiting mommy to a precious little boy in China,
    Rebecca

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  9. Robin says

    October 29, 2009 at 1:35 AM

    I know exactly what you mean. I am so very blessed to have a little girl and a boy from China!!!

    Blessings,
    Robin

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  10. Annie says

    October 29, 2009 at 1:57 AM

    Stefanie, he is just beautiful!!!

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  11. Karin says

    October 29, 2009 at 2:21 AM

    What a sweet little guy! Hopefully his family will find him soon. Boys are so much fun!

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  12. Janet and Kevin says

    October 29, 2009 at 3:35 AM

    Jude's story is one that stirred us to consider boys on the special needs list, and now our darling Philip is home with us while waiting for our third son (second from China) to come home! God is good.

    Janet, Kevin, Ted, Philip, and waiting for Eli (got his LOA yesterday!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!)

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  13. Sister Kim says

    October 29, 2009 at 4:29 AM

    Nice post! I kept Jude in prayer today for his feast day… Saints Simon and Jude were celebrated today…I thought how blessed he is to be in your family…S. Kim, OSB

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  14. LaLa says

    October 29, 2009 at 4:31 AM

    Well we were all set on a second daughter from China…then that became a daughter from Vietnam and HAPPILY I have a sweet boy from Vietnam sleeping upstairs. I can't imagine my life without my darling boy : )

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  15. Sophie Neri says

    October 29, 2009 at 4:56 AM

    Boys are awesome!! I love my boys, I have 5. They are stinky, love to play in mud most of the time and they are so funny. My boys always help me and they love their little adopted sister. I'm praying for 2 more angels, and I would love for the one to be another boy.

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  16. Valerie and Jeff says

    October 29, 2009 at 11:46 AM

    Thank you so much for your openness on your heart Stefanie! If you haven't you should read my post from Oct. 9th! http://almyfamilyjournal.blogspot.com/2009/10/samuel-god-heard.html

    I had a similar epiphany … not that I know what to do with it … but I'm sure it was the whisper of God. It blew me away. Thank you for reassuring and spurring all of on in behalf of those who are waiting. Maybe our house could use a little more boy?!
    Oh, and your boys are just PRECIOUS! I can see how you get lost in those eyes!

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  17. Kristi says

    October 29, 2009 at 1:51 PM

    In my own personal case, I felt a very strong sense (like an involuntary "pull") that we are meant to adopt a daughter from China. …You just have to go with advice from above!! ๐Ÿ™‚

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  18. Stephanie says

    October 29, 2009 at 10:59 PM

    Stefanie,
    I would so LOVE to adopt a little boy. We have 4 bio sons and 1 adopted Polish girl. I know so many little fellas just wait bc they are boys. The AAC boys are Awesome!!! I love being a boy mommy and would love a 1/2 dozen or so but God has to work on my dear husband. Keep up the blog I get tons of wise and open advice from you there:)

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  19. Oatsvall Team says

    October 30, 2009 at 12:09 AM

    could totally drown in those eyes !!!! love all you do to help set the LONELY in families … love ya !!!

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  20. Deb says

    October 30, 2009 at 3:30 PM

    I could drown in those eyes too! He is such a cutie!

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  21. Heather says

    October 30, 2009 at 10:41 PM

    Jude is adorable!

    I think the little girls are precious, but I have a big heart for little boys from China-always have. Our Max is such a sweet boy. I couldn't imagine my life with out that little guy! I hope and pray we can go back someday for another little boy!!!

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I'm Stefanie. Wife to one, mom to 13. Occasional blogger and t-shirt maker. Wannabe photographer and exerciser. Constant grace-needer and orphan advocator. more
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